Loving yourself is the first step , and there are many steps to follow but lets just start there! Believe it or not confidence is a learned skill, it’s not something you just wake up and be…. well not at first.
Lets back up for a minute here. Now when I say confidence I’m not just speaking of physical appearance. I’m talking full on mental ,physical , emotional confidence . Believing in yourself wholeheartedly. Knowing that today is just one of those days for me and even though my outside appearance is looking a little shabby I’m still the s!@#! . Getting to a place where you accept all of your shortcomings is no easy task believe me. We are all born with a clean slate, then life happens. Years of social conditioning and other factors make us adopt certain mindsets.
Take me for example… by far not perfect , I repeat not perfect! But you guys knew that already right? lol . As an only child for 18 years in my younger years I used to seek acceptance from others . I was an only child so having an abundance of “friends” was big deal to me . Don’t judge I was a kid ok. Then I became a teenager and acne tackled me like a high school football team. I was skinner than a light pole with big forehead and I walked on my toes. Despite all of what I saw at the time as my flaws … well the acne yeah I still stand on that one but let’s get back on track. People were still drawn to me for more than my physical attributes or lack there of.
That was my first life lesson on physical appearance not being everything but the true lessons came a little later in life. Recognizing early that personality and self-esteem could take me further all while feeling good about self. Self-esteem is such a big deal I can’t express this enough. Even at your lowest point know that you are somebody and you are worthy of all good things.
One of the biggest misconceptions about confidence is that confident people are never scared. I’m here to tell you that’s so far from the truth. I would like to think of myself as a pretty confident person and I’m scared on a everyday basis. Even with returning to social media, I mean I can’t count the amount of breakdowns I had over it. Having confidence doesn’t mean you are super human lol. We all have the same set of limiting thoughts and fears that can make us feel not so confident at times. The thing that set me apart was my ability to rise above my fears and push ahead despite of them.
I know what you’re thinking…you have all the answers don’t you? Well no… Being confident isn’t about knowing all the answers; it’s about being able to move forward knowing that you will figure it out. It is knowing that you can handle whatever comes at you. Sometimes you have to do just that because there is no other choice.
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